After the SCOTUS decided to legalize homosexual marriage social media has been flooded with the hashtag #lovewins. The sentiment behind #lovewins can cause Christians to feel conflicted about same-sex marriage because God is love, and Jesus told us to love, and it seems loving to allow two people who love each other to legally marry, regardless of gender. After all, aren’t Christians supposed to be on the side of love? Isn’t it hypocritical to say “we love you” but then deny them the right to marry? Here are some brief thoughts about love.
- #lovewins makes love the highest good. As the Beatles sang, “All you need is love.” Yes, God is love, but love isn’t god. We don’t worship love, love is not the ultimate.
- #lovewins makes the object of our love righteous; that is, love makes things right. However, who and what we love doesn’t change the biblical definition of marriage, or any other biblical law/ethic, for that matter. What we love, no matter how altruistic, does not make the object of our love righteous. What we love was never a standard for our morality. It’s arrogant to think that our love has that much power.
- #lovewins should remind us that loving the “right” things can be just as sinful as loving the “wrong” things. It’s our love tainted by sin that turns good things into objects of worship; good things like food, family, country, money, sex, shopping, Netflix, sports, dogs, work, health food, kids, and yes, even love. Our hearts are idol factories (Calvin) and #lovewins can make what we love an object of worship, even love itself.
- #lovewins draws a line in the sand where one side is on the right side of the line and others are on the wrong side of the line – and who wants to be on the wrong side? But we all are on the wrong side of love, meaning everyone’s love is misplaced and misdirected because we love what we want, not what God wants. If you want to draw a line in the sand then it must have Jesus on the right side and humanity on the wrong side. And remember, it was Jesus who stepped over the line and came to the wrong side to save wrong people.
- #lovewins seems to antiquate sin, or to make sin irrelevant. If love is so right how can anything be wrong? However, love doesn’t make sin not sin. Love doesn’t undo sin and make sin right. Remember, Jesus didn’t throw out the Old Testament moral code, he actually intensified it. Look at a woman with lust in your heart and you have committed adultery. Anyone NOT guilty of adultery? Love never nullifies God’s law.
- #lovewins fails because winning love is perfect love. Perfect love is love that doesn’t fail, that isn’t selfish, that doesn’t get irritated, that isn’t arrogant, rude, or deceitful. Winning love is perfect love 24/7, 100% of the time. Therefore, #lovewins makes us all hypocritical since we all fall on the wrong side of love and fail at perfect love.
- Maybe the only person who should be hashtagging #lovewins is Jesus.